Never Let a Heart break Go to Waste

A heart break can be very painful and bitter.  But it can also be a door that takes you to a better place.

The outcome of a heart break experience highly depends on your attitude.

A heart break can propel you.

It can remold you. It can cause you to step into a new level in your life - if you want.

If only we could see a heartbreak as not just the end of a phase but that it also can be the beginning of a new thing.   If only we can ‘let go and let God’ after a heart break, then we enter into a place of rest and quiet.

Years ago, I heard a sermon titled ‘Never Let Crisis Go To Waste’ by Pastor Poju Oyemade.

The sermon in summary is about how you can turn a crisis to work in your favor.  How you can mourn but quickly recover and see the message this tumultuous time carries and how you can follow the tides as you pray and seek the will of God.

In times of crisis, you need to be hopeful, positive and reflective.  You should keep your eyes and mind open. If you do, you will see and you will hear.   Don’t shut yourself from the world for too long.  There is always a message in the crisis.  The tides will always carry you somewhere – whether it’s forward or backward is highly dependent on you.

When I had a major heart break, I decided to apply this teaching in my life. It was as if I couldn’t handle it.  It was as if I wouldn’t survive.  But I humbled myself and sought deeper.  I prayed, listened and I was directed to look within.   In this time, I discovered many things about myself.   I found areas in my life where I needed to make adjustments.    I was taken back to my childhood and I saw patterns that were molding me into a type of woman that God has not called me to be and I saw how I could break this patterns and follow God’s path for my life.

This reflective time helped to be hopeful and to be bold.

Out of this crisis, I chose to become a stronger woman.   I chose to become better.   The plan is not to hold on to what’s gone but to find something new to hold; something that will increase and better me.   I sought information that will help me grow and that will also teach me to do better in a relationship next time.   And that will also help me be with the kind of man I should be with.

I also made sure I was not doing anything out of revenge or bitterness.  You know how we begin to pursue success just to prove to the person who left that we are not on the same level whenever we stumble on them.  I decide to do whatever I needed to do out of love for me first.

I worked on myself so much that in case I see my Ex with another woman or I hear he is married before me, I will not feel bad.

I made sure the pain was gotten rid of and that it wouldn’t resurface whenever I stumble on an Ex or I hear of him.

Out of this crisis, I came up with my old blog www.shehelpz.blogspot.com, and out of that blog is this one ‘Ladymode’.    I will be releasing an e-book which is compilation of posts from that blog.  My ministry ‘SHEHELPZ’ too found footing during this time.

Now,

You can survive a heart break.

You can manage and overcome the pain.

Let rejection fuel your passion. It fueled mine and still does.