Love Vs Age

Dear Boss Lady, 

Happy International Women's Day.

Each for Equal, yeah.  I even featured in one of them big organization's women's equality campaign. Awesome right?

Now let's talk about those bloody raging hormones that boil like 'about to done' yam everytime you come across a younger male. 

It's amazing how it is you madam that have somewhat developed unusual interest in younger men. And it is even shocking to you how your inner being is shameless at this development. But your outer conscious self is ashamed and glad that the world does not get to catch a sneak peek of what goes on on the inside of a closet cougar like you. Lol

Cougar. You dislike the word. Cos really you are not one. You just happen to have a thing these days for younger men. And it seems something kind of happen with time and the men that were born way after you - their head seems to be working like that of a thrift collector. They are absolutely gentle men. They know what to say, when to say it and how. They are a vision full bunch, running at the speed of light towards success yet have that effontery and time to tell you how gorgeous you look and how madly they want to be with you. The mad respect they have for you is another huge turn on. Yet all this does not reduce the dose of masculinity they were born with. 

I do not think age is nothing but a number. But I do think age does not matter as much as maturity, direction and understanding.. And err with uncommon sense at work - full time.   I can't be in my 30s and be dating common sense, we need  something unusual and uncommon  to rock my boat 😉😌

Now let's break things down:

Maturity

Does he understand the basic rudiments of living and succeeding in this life and at relationships. Does he understand human 101? Does he know and focus on what matters most?

Direction

Does he know what he wants (at least an idea) and is he taking steps (even if baby steps ) towards it.  Is he doing something every day to be better and to reach his life objectives?

Understanding

Does he understand that he needs to understand what it is you both are getting  into -age difference or nah.  Does he understand?  

Is he an understanding person? Does he understand you? Does he understand what love/relationship is about- even marriage? Does he have an understanding with you?

Uncommon Sense

I hope he doesn't have a tadpole mentalility. That type that brings up 1960s relationship styles into a 21st century realistic love mix. Is he acting like he is a reincarnation of his great grand father who think women have should be relegated irrespective of what they are or have achieved. 

Does he respect you. 

If he passes the list of tests up there then the rest is up to you Sis. 

The following questions are for you to truthfully answer for yourself:

Do you mind?

Do you care?

Do you give 2 shits?

Do you love him enough?.

Will you forget about the age difference and just be in love, and act like two grown ups instead?

Will you respect him?

Will you respect him?

Wil you respect him?

Will you forget your age and not keep reminding him about it at every instance issues come up?

Can you offload your traditional mental set up about age and marriage and just be female to this Jar of cookie? 

If you tick 'yes' to all, then lady, your man was born like many years after you. You might have been at his naming ceremony but, hey.. it doesn't matter anymore. 

The rest is easy.

You don't need me to tell you how you are going to pull up a new age for your guy  to tell your friends and family, do you? Why should anyone be asking or imagining of he is younger sef? He buys you flowers duh. 

Disclaimer:

This post does not in anyway encourage child abuse. Don't go unreasonably low.